The Independent Woman

  Dear Independent Women, I have been like the rest of any number of woman across the nation, bouncin’ along in my nearly paid off car, headed to my nearly paid off house, letting my independence scream through my speakers at all who dared to look my way.  If any questioning, threat of questioning, or … Continue reading

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Date ‘n Game

Dear “The Way Things Are Supposed to Be”, Boy meets girl and girl meets boy and they live happily ever after with a dog, a cat, three and a half kids and a white picket fence. Or do they? What happens if boy makes it into his thirties without meeting girl and girl is in … Continue reading

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Not the Righteous Rape

If it wasn’t for Date Rape He’d never get laid. Aaaahh… Sublime circa 1992. There I am at 12 years old rebelliously using my parents’ coffee table as a stage with three of my best friends, belting out the lyrics to Date Rape. To us there’s nothing more to that song than a catchy beat … Continue reading

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Does Ex-Boyfriend Automatically Mean New Best Friend?

Dear Greg Behrendt, Naturally when I broke up with my boyfriend I lay in bed listening to Allure “All Cried Out”, eating ice cream and reading It’s Called a Breakup Because it’s Broken and I used your amazing words of wisdom to get me through what otherwise could have been a very difficult time of life. … Continue reading

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Stage 5 Clinger

Dear Male Species, I want to share something with you that I know at times you are vastly unaware of: NOT EVERY WOMAN WANTS TO MARRY YOU! I love my male counterparts but so often they walk through life interacting with every woman as if she only sees him in visions of being down on … Continue reading

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Falling in Love is A Choice

Dear Broken Heart, It’s so easy to feel like I am at the mercy of you, left with nothing but the shattered pieces that lie scattered about my feet, some shards large and easily identifiable but others small and hidden in the rubble that has since accumulated, some fallen deep into cracks that may never … Continue reading

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Bag Lady

Dear Erykah Badu, I did not come into this world celebrated by the world as a Black Nubian Queen, there may have been a silver spoon nearby but upon my tongue, beneath my lips it did not rest. As life has progressed and I have evolved I have become a beautiful, Black, independent, prosperous, talented, … Continue reading

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Bad Date #30046

Dear Neiman Marcus, I went on a date with one of your fashion designers the other day.  He’s primarily worked in the New York office but more recently relocated to Los Angeles where he’s just getting settled and designing for one of your prominent stores there.  We met through a mutual friend and hit it off pretty … Continue reading

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He WAS Your Boyfriend

Dear Ladies, While my last post was a hit amongst the ladies and many of us found ourselves relating to it on some level there were many men who were not excited about the gender bias it showed. Much the same as Ntozake Shange stated in her the foreword of her most recent release of … Continue reading

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